Has your friend been nice enough to invite you to be the best man at his wedding and asked you for a speech or a wedding toast? Crap.Another $120 tux and possibly even the responsibility for a speech.Only kidding.It’ll be great . It’s as close as guys can get to the giddy feeling all girls share when it’s the day to say ‘I do’.
I’m going to try to give you some helpful advice from my years as a corporate speaker and trainer.I’ll have you sailing through this toast thing in no time, with the spectators left wanting more.Don’t worry about anything…you’re in good hands. It’s an art I call “wedding toasts best man style”.
Okay, let’s get to the meat of this.When you think concerning how to give wedding toasts, best man to be, reflect on how you and the groom met.This will become a key part of the story you’ll be telling with your toast.
The basic breakdown of wedding toasts, best man centered, is a) the intro, b) a story, c) the ‘toast’.I say section c) is the toast, but in reality the whole thing is, it’s just that section c) feels like an official toast.
Let’s examine these sections a little closer:
In the intro, you’ll simply be telling everyone there who you are.This is more often than not done by stating your name, acknowledging that you’re the best man, and saying your intention to talk about a thing or two.
Then comes a story.This will be the gateway to the audience’s mind, allowing you to paint from a wide palette of emotions.Everything from fear to sadness , happy times, pain , comedy …it’s all available to you here.In all your training for wedding toasts, best man style, remember this : there is something in us all that loves a story .THEY LOVE TO.There is nobody on this planet that won’t stop like a deer in headlights when you start telling them a story.A story is just a series of events, with any luck livened up with a bit of action to keep it amusing.Why is this so powerful then?Psychologists theorize that because when we were developing as people on this Earth , before we developed languages where we could really communicate well…we told stories to each other to convey our ideas.This behavior is hardwired into us as a survival mechanism.Don’t believe so?Try starting to tell anyone you know a story and see how they instantly melt like putty, listening to your every word.
Then, there’s the official toast.Recall I said this whole thing, intro, story and this part are the toast.I still stick to that, just that this is what you’ll think feels like the toast.You’ll raise your glass and present a toast out loud to everybody, reflecting on some of the good character aspects from your tale.This is just like magic! When you tell a tale , then wrap it up with a toast that looks back on a quality portrayed in the preceding tale , it’s like you’re giving the toast with evidence that’s set in facts from history.This stuff is [greatly powerful | This is hugely powerful stuff]!
Tying it all together like this will leave the audience feeling VERY good, bride and groom included.It’s as if the audience’s minds want a rational ending to bring together the meaning of why they’ve been sitting there listening to you talk . This does that for them.I still can’t point to any one hypothesis to this day as to why this works so well, all I can tell you is that it very much does. All I can say is that everyone likes a compliment based in fact.When you present a toast to the future based on a complimentary quality of the groom’s past , it’s as if the future that you’re toasting to seems to be that much more likely , and therefore more believable . Combine that with the sense of logical completeness, and there’s your winner.
I know this article was brief. For more detailed information, see my site on wedding toasts best man style. And remember, you’ll do fine! You’ve found the best info I use, and I know it works for me.(I’m at 3 wedding ceremonies this year to date, twice as best man!) Here’s to your victory !
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